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Reduce Your Stress During Covid-19

Covid-19 Support Series #1

I am sending you my love and blessings during this world crisis due to the coronavirus Covid-19.  I bless you with the wisdom to make healthy choices and to keep you and your loved ones safe from harm. Read more

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Happy Wife, Happy Life

I’m writing to men here. But if you are a woman who is married, dating or engaged, you’ll probably want to read this, too. Give him a gentle nudge to read it. Read more

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Marriage Enrichment Workshop

One Thursday, January 19, 2017. 7:00pm-8:30pm

Free and open to the public. Registration required.

Do you know …

  1. Half of all marriages that end, do so in the first 7 years.
  2. Four behaviors predict divorce with 94% accuracy: the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse
  3. Two behaviors predict divorce at 16 years of marriage.
  4. Unhappy couples have a 35% increased chance of serious illness.
  5. Happy couples live 4-6 years longer.
  6. Trying to solve conflicts when you are too stressed only makes things worse. It is kind of like talking to a drunk. You won’t get anywhere.

Couple Middle Age BrunettIn this workshop, you will learn practical tools to become a master of marriage.

  1. Discover the 4 most deadly behaviors that kill marriages so you can stop doing them.
  2. Communicate, listen and empathize so you develop emotional intimacy, physical intimacy and spiritual intimacy.

Who Should Attend

  • Married couples and pre-marital couples: engaged, co-habitating, dating.
  • This workshop is inappropriate couples with severe relationship distress, significant emotional or physical abuse, serious emotional or mental health problems, relationships where one or both partners are actively addicted to drugs or alcohol, and relationships with serious compulsive behavior with gambling, sexual acting out (including affairs), and other disruptive behaviors. If these situations are discovered during class, a referral will be made for individual or couples psychotherapy.

This workshop does not include sharing problems publicly. Since the class involves couples doing exercises together, both partners must participate.

This workshop is based on these books:

  • The Seven Principles of Making Marriage Work by John Gottman, PhD. Three decades of research on what makes masters and disasters of marriage.
  • Biblical Reference Guide for the Gottman Method by David Penner, PhD
  • Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson, PhD. (Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy)

Want a Preview? Watch this TV interview. Search YouTube for Benita Esposito

Where: United Community Bank, Community Room. 177 Highway 515 East, Blairsville, GA 30512

When: One Thursday, January 19, 2017. 7-8:30pm. Please arrive by 6:45pm.

Format: Lecture, interactive exercises and Q&A discussion.

Tuition: Free

Registration required by 1/17/17. Space is limited to 10 couples.

Call Benita Esposito, LPC at 770-998-6642. Email: Benita@EspositoInstitute.com, or complete the Contact Form on this website.

Facilitator: Benita A. Esposito is a 29_BenitaEsposito2011 69KB closeupLicensed Professional Counselor with a master’s degree in Clinical Psychology. She has practiced psychotherapy for three decades, helping individuals and couples in private sessions, groups and intensive retreats. She belongs to Good Shepherd Episcopal Church and lives in Young Harris, Georgia. Psychotherapy in Georgia, in-person, telephone and videoconference. Spiritual Counseling worldwide.

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Taming the Inner Critic with Meditation

Peacock-Eye-150x150If you’re like me, all too frequently your mind wonders off into a jungle of negative thoughts causing stress, anxiety or depressed mood. Like little kids taunting you on a playground, your Inner Critic harasses you with nasty messages such as: You’re not good enough. Keep trying harder. You don’t have time to rest and meditate. You don’t have time to schedule a day to play with your friend. Keep going. Complete that next task. The Inner Critic relentlessly cracks the whip. Read more

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Pre-Marital Counseling

Are you considering pre-marital counseling to get your marriage off to a healthy start? I am happy to help you learn research-based skills so you can become a master of marriage.

Why is pre-marital counseling so important? For marriages that end, half of them occur during the first seven years. Second marriages have an even higher divorce rate than first-time marriages. Third-time marriages have an even higher divorce rate than second-time marriages. You get the picture. The average couples waits six years before seeking marriage counseling. That’s way too long to suffer and let bad habits brew. Bottom line is: when you give yourselves the gift of pre-marital counseling, you will build a strong foundation so you can avoid a lot of potential misery. Read more

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Healing the Relationship with My Father

The Only Time I Saw My Father Cry

A Short Story About the Struggle to Forgive

Last Sunday, our pastor reminded us of Jesus’ message, “Before you pray, you must forgive.” A memory flashed across my mind of the only time I saw my father cry. Read more

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What Jesus Wants for Christmas

gift-box-redI like to give people what they want, and one of the best ways to do that is to ask them.  So I asked Jesus what he wants for Christmas and this is what I heard him say.

Jesus:  First of all, I don’t need any gifts.  I have everything I want because I am one with God.  So please don’t feel that you need to get me anything.

Benita:  But I want to!  I want to show my love for you because my heart is overflowing with gratitude for who you are and what you have done for us on planet Earth.  You loved us so much that you incarnated to manifest a profound quality of love on Earth that had not been seen before. In only 30+ years you made such a difference here that people all over the world remember you and try to emulate.

Jesus: Please don’t emulate me. Remember when I told you “You can do all these things I do and more, because I go to the Father?” Read more

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The Dark Night’s Gift

 It’s easy to be grateful for the things I like.

The beauty of the lake and mountains,

Cherished family and the memories we share,

The company of good friends, Read more

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Anxiety Disorder Definitions

beautiful womanAnxiety can be a healthy response to stress management, and can help people cope according to researchers at the National Institute of Mental Health. When anxious fearful feelings interrupt daily actives and become excessive and unwarranted, anxiety becomes a problem. Anxiety disorders can take several forms, from fears of social interactions to obsession and panic attacks. Read more

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