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How to Get Started with Counseling FAQs

How do I make an appointment?  Complete the Contact Page and tell me a little about your situation. I’ll do my best to contact you within 48 hours.

May I have a complementary interview? Yes, I offer a 10-minute phone interview so we can determine if I am the best counselor for you. If not, I’ll do my best to make a referral.

How long does it take to get an appointment? I can usually schedule your first appointment in one week, two at the latest in most cases.

How long are your psychotherapy sessions? 53-55 minutes for individual counseling. I prefer 80 minutes for couples, but we can do 53-53 minutes if we meet weekly.

What are your hours? Monday-Thursday 10am-7pm EST. Friday 12:00-5pm. Weekends are reserved for group retreats and Private Marriage Retreats.

May I use my insurance for psychotherapy? Yes.  Click here for details. Note: To use insurance, I must assign a mental illness diagnosis, e.g., anxiety, depression, PTSD, adjustment disorder. If you do not want a mental illness diagnosis on your record, you’ll want to pay out-of-pocket.

Do you accept credit cards? Yes. I process credit and debit cards through PayPal. If PayPal charges a service fee, you will be responsible for paying it @ 2.8%. If you withdraw funds from your bank account, PayPal does not charge a service fee.

If I don’t use insurance, do you offer a reduced or sliding scale? That is a possibility. I need to know your income and life circumstances. I will discuss fees when you call me for your complementary 10-minute phone meeting.

How do you deal with religious beliefs? I honor all religious paths that do not endorse hurting people. I am a Christian, and if you are looking for counseling that incorporates the values of unconditional love, grace and mercy, you have come to the right place. I do not impose my beliefs on my clients, and I do not tell them what they should do. I follow my clients lead, and if they want to incorporate healing prayer into our sessions, I am happy to do that. I have found it to be very helpful.

More Questions? Please complete the contact form.

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The Meaning Of Work for Introverts

SuccessIf you are an introvert who wants to have a successful business, you can’t do it the way an extrovert does. I want to help you accelerate your learning curve. That’s why I’m sharing the following article written by a marketing expert for introverts. If you are not an introvert, please forward this to your friends who are introverts.

Benita Esposito’s personal challenge to launch her business, shared with Marcia Yudkin, marketing expert:

Dear Marcia,

Your article (below) on how introverts love being their own boss describes me to a T. I never wanted to work for a corporation because I dislike politics. Starting a business of my own was a huge risk. I had no idea how to do it way back in 1982. I floundered for four years, trying to figure out how to attract enough clients. I hated attending crowded networking events where everyone was making small talk. I disliked making cold calls to doctors who might become referral sources. I had to discover a marketing strategy that would work for me as an introvert.

I painfully struggled to develop the courage to do it my way, but I am so glad I stuck with it. (My theme song is “My Way” by Sinatra.)

Looking back, it has been worth every hour of labor, every minute of fear, and every sleepless night. I learned that success as a solo entrepreneur rests on good marketing. I have lots of expertise, but if enough people don’t know about my services, I won’t reach my goals. Your article reveals essential points every introverted entrepreneur should know. I wish I had read it 30 years ago. Thanks for your contributions to all us introverts. I appreciate you.

“Introverts: Labor Day Reflection”

According to the U.S. Department of Labor, Labor Day is “a yearly national tribute to the contributions workers have made to the strength, prosperity, and well-being of our country.” I like to mark it by reflecting on the meaning of work. This in turn always makes me give fervent thanks that I work for myself.

Only 11 percent of Americans are self-employed, in part because it’s viewed as the tougher row to hoe. However, for an introvert being one’s own boss is heavenly. We get to have a buffer zone between society’s expectations and our daily reality.

No one dictates our working hours, how we decorate our office (or don’t) or the extent to which we need to socialize with colleagues we haven’t chosen and don’t like.

Our freedom puts us out of step with others at times. We don’t nod our heads in agreement when someone complains about Monday mornings or exclaims, “Thank God it’s Friday!” We can take our days off when we please, and for introverts that’s probably not when everyone else is packing the roads and filling planes. And if we adore what we do for work and dig in at 5:00 in the morning or work on a day that’s supposed to be a holiday, that doesn’t really matter in the slightest.

Of course, we still need to get along with clients, but even there we have a lot of freedom, if we choose to take it. Like me, do you hate meetings? Simply create other ways to get projects done, and attract clients who appreciate no-fuss efficiency. Do you prefer to dig in deep with one or two clients at a time instead of short, superficial gigs one after the other? When you’re in charge of your own work life you can readily bend it your way.

If you’ve been floundering on your own or obeying too many “shoulds,” join my upcoming Introverts Action Group, which helps you understand the talents and abilities that make your soul sing and shows how to attract simpatico customers by being true to yourself.

You can sign up here: http://www.yudkin.com/innies.htm

Whatever your current employment status as we mark Labor Day, I wish you joy and fulfillment!

Your marketing mentor, Marcia Yudkin, Creative Ways

PO Box 305, Goshen, MA 01032

Website: http://www.yudkin.com/introverts.htm

To sign up for Marcia’s marketing tips for introverts, click here.

~ This article was reposted with permission from the author. ~

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Podcast: Masters and Disasters of Marriage

four-horsesIn this 20-minute podcast, Benita Esposito highlights Dr. John Gottman’s 40 years of research on what makes masters and disasters of marriage.

Host: Dr. Cynthia Libert, Family Medicine and Holistic Integrative Medical Doctor. Life Wellness Radio, Blairsville, Georgia.

 

Podcast Part 1: Disasters of Marriage (click to listen on Dr. Libert’s website)

1) Harsh Start-up

2) 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse by Dr. John Gottman

Criticism: Attacking your partner’s personality or character, usually with the intent of making someone right and someone wrong. Examples: Generalizations: “you always…” “you never…”“you’re the type of person who …” “why are you so …”

Contempt: Attacking your partner’s sense of self with the intention to insult or psychologically abuse him or her.
• Insults and name calling: “wimp, fat, stupid, ugly, slob, lazy and worse …”  Hostile humor, sarcasm or mockery.
• Body language & tone of voice: sneering, rolling your eyes, curling your upper lip

Defensiveness: Seeing yourself as the victim, warding off a perceived attack. Making excuses: “It’s not my fault…”, “I didn’t…”
• Cross-complaining: meeting your partner’s complaint with a complaint of your own, while ignoring what your partner said.
• Disagreeing and then cross-complaining: “That’s not true, you’re the one who …” Yes-butting: start off agreeing but end up disagreeing. Repeating yourself without paying attention to what the other person is saying. Whining. “It’s not fair.”

Stonewalling: Withdrawing from the relationship as a way to avoid conflict. Partners may think they are trying to be “neutral” but stonewalling conveys disapproval, icy distance, separation, disconnection, and/or smugness. It breaks your emotional bond.
• Stony silence. Monosyllabic mutterings. Changing the subject. Removing yourself physically.

The 4 final stages of the death of a marriage.

  1. You see your marital problems as severe.
  2. Talking things over seems useless. You try to solve problems on your own.
  3. You start leading parallel lives.
  4. Loneliness sets in.   But, you can recover if you use the steps below.

Podcast Part 2  (Click to listen on Dr. Libert’s website.) describes one of the essential communication tools used by people who are masters of marriage. The masters don’t blame, they don’t accuse, and they don’t do any of the 4 horsemen. They use “I messages.”

Speaker: Non-blameful complaints about your partner’s behavior are OK.

I Message: “I feel (describe your emotion) + describe the situation that is upsetting you + make a request of your partner that will help you.

Listener: Gives his or her undivided attention, listens, paraphrases thier partner’s message. Validates their partner. Empathizes.

Listen to the entire podcast for details.  (Click to listen on Dr. Libert’s website)

If you would like counseling to improve your marriage, please contact me, Benita A. Esposito, Licensed Professional Counselor for a complementary 10-minute interview.

Phone: 770.998.6642  Atlanta and Blairsville, Georgia

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Will Your Marriage Survive?

Couple in white midageAfter four decades of research tracking 3,000 couples, Dr. John Gottman compared the communication habits of couples who stayed married with couples who divorced within 15 years. He isolated four behaviors that unhappy couples use which predict divorce with 94 percent accuracy. That may seem outlandish, but it’s backed up by solid research.

Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse

1. Criticism: Attacking your partner’s character with the intent of making him or her wrong. Your sentences start with “you always…” “you never…“you’re the kind of person who …”

2. Contempt: With an attitude of superiority, you attack your partner’s sense of self, intentionally insulting him or her. Words can hurt as much as physical violence. Contempt may include emotional, verbal and psychological abuse.

• You don’t feel guilty calling your partner names or cursing.

• You think that hostile humor, sarcasm or mockery is OK.

• Your body language & tone of voice may include sneering, glaring, or rolling your eyes.

3. Defensiveness: You feel like a victim, trying to protect yourself from an attack by the enemy.

• Frequent comments include: “It’s not my fault.”  “I didn’t do it.”  “If you hadn’t done X, I wouldn’t have done Y.”  “That’s not true, you’re the one who …” “It’s not fair.”

• Cross-complaining: when your partner complains, you don’t try to understand. Instead, you fire off a complaint of your own, dismissing what your partner said.

• Yes-butting: You start off by agreeing but end up disagreeing, ignoring your partner’s feelings.

• You keep repeating yourself, hoping your partner will get it this time. You don’t validate anything your partner says.

4. Stonewalling: You withdraw from the relationship because you are uncomfortable with conflict. You hope your partner will stop talking if you don’t add fuel to the fire. Although your intentions may be good, stonewalling severs the emotional connection in your relationship, and that’s never a good thing.

If you would like to learn how to repair a relationship by replacing the Four Horsemen with healthy communication, please Contact me for Marriage Counseling, Couples Counseling, Pre-marital Counseling and Dating advice. I’ll help you get it right this time.

Benita A. Esposito, MA, Licensed Professional Counselor

Phone: 770.998.6642

Flourishing Lives for S.M.A.R.T. Women and the Men Who Love Them

(Spiritual + Mature + Authentic + Responsible + Trustworthy)

Reference: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John M. Gottman and Nan Silver. Purchase the revised edition 2015.

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Sandy Springs / Atlanta, GA Office for Benita Esposito, Licensed Professional Counselor

5885 Glenridge Drive, NE. Suite 130. Atlanta, GA 30328

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I share an office with six other counselors. You’ll see our names on the sign by the office door Suite 130 and on the directory list in the lobby.

EVENING APPOINTMENTS: The exterior doors may be locked after 5:30p.m. Text me to say you have arrived, and I will meet you at the door.

LANDMARKS: At the intersection of Hammond and Glenridge Drive, you’ll see Hammond Recreation Park. Turn south on Glenridge Dr. (towards I-285) and go 1/8 mile. Turn left at the sign: Plaza 400. Drive to the back of the office complex to building #5885. You’ll pass “Sweet Pea” café on the left.

Tip 1: After you finish your appointment, for easy access onto I-285, turn left onto Glenridge Drive. The entrance to I-285 is 1/4 mile down the road.

Tip 2: Arrive 10 minutes early for your first appointment so you have plenty of time to find the new location. Accessing Glenridge Drive from I-285 can be tricky if you don’t know the area. I recommend you print travel instructions from mapquest or google.

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Healing Abuse. Susan’s Breathwork Story.

A bright 30-something woman, Susan vowed that she would never return to her abusive dreamstimefree_185549 Cross 58KBex-boyfriend. But two weeks ago, she did.  She was driving down the interstate while he sat in the passenger seat. They were traveling to a concert in another city.  His rage flared into a frenzy.  She had seen this way too many times before. Yelling at Susan and hitting her in the face, he grabbed her cell phone. Knowing her life was in danger, she struggled to decide the best way to escape. She exited the interstate onto a city street, stopped the car in the middle of the road, stepped out, and yelled for help. A motorist called the police who quickly came to take the report. Fortunately, the officer was compassionate and took Susan seriously. Susan drove off, leaving her ex-boyfriend by the side of the road. Read more

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Association for the Integration of the Whole Person (AIWP)

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LOVE OF LIFE and people is achieved through an integrated awakening of physical, mental, spiritual and emotional processes. Life itself is a religious experience as realized in the temple of my being. I am performing a religious service when my thoughts and deeds involve an affirmation of life. My congregation is both myself and those who seek my support in striving towards an integration of the whole person. To serve others, for fee or gratuity, who seek my assistance in the pursuit of this religious experience is both my commitment and my right, free from any persecution. My service is supported by the Association for the Integration of the Whole Person in agreement of principles with the Constitution of the United States. Membership in the Association for the Integration of the Whole Person will be denied or revoked if I interfere with or injure the rights of others, perform criminal acts, or practice medicine without a license. My service, whether for fee or gratuity, is limited to the areas for which I have been qualified.

Religious: “a cause, principle, or system of beliefs held to with ardor and faith.”

Spiritual: “of religion, sacred, devotional, or ecclesiastical; not lay or temporal.”

The Association for the Integration of the Whole Person was founded so that spiritual persons, prepared to serve their communities, can do so in ways that assure the blessings of self-empowerment, psychologically and educationally, leading to peace for persons of goodwill.

 

“Choose well. Life is brief.” ~Benita A. Esposito, M.A.

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