Deep Emotional Healing Retreat Fall 2020

Excavate and express your radiant Authentic Self … the person you were meant to be.

This is a semi-private intensive retreat. October 3-4, 2020.

Save $25 with the Early bird discount by August 15, 2020.

Maximum of 6 participants. Register now to assure your seat.

Young Harris, Georgia USA

Unresolved emotional wounds decrease our ability to create fulfilling relationships and a meaningful career. They contribute to stress, dis-ease, anxiety and depression. But the good news is, you can heal.

Who Should Attend? Adults. Singles and couples are welcome.

Prerequisites: 3 private sessions for new clients must be completed at least one month before the retreat. Please apply now to get started with your private sessions if you are a new client. Complete the Contact Page for a complimentary10-minute get-acquainted phone chat.

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Relationship issues: Do you get emotionally triggered and act in ways you wish you hadn’t? Do you find yourself repeating unwanted patterns?

Spirituality: Do you get thrown off-center when things don’t go your way? Do you want to feel whole all the time, no matter what people do?

Mindset and Mood: Do limiting thoughts and “monkey-mind chatter” generate anxiety or depression? Do you procrastinate, hoping you can avoid conflicts?

Health: Do you experience physical illness or pain? Do you suspect that unhealed emotional wounds may be a contributing factor?

Career: Do you want to create a meaningful career where you can be your Authentic Self? Do you sense the creative reservoir within, but you don’t fully express your gifts in the world?

Work-Life Balance: Do you find yourself being so busy that you don’t have enough time for your loved ones or for yourself?

If you answered “yes” to many of these questions, I want you to know that you don’t have to continue to suffer.

Retreat Venue. Photo by Benita A Esposito

The Retreat Promise:

Raise your relationships, career, health and spirituality to a whole new level of fulfillment.

Receive insights so compelling that you naturally flow into effective action instead of getting bogged down in self-defeating patterns.

Experience rigorous yet gentle leadership tailored to your unique learning style.

Allow God’s love to heal you and release wave after wave of creativity. Bask in the sweetness of spiritual intimacy, drawing ever closer to God. Enjoy accelerated healing in the beauty of our mountain lake.

  1. You will transform life patterns that no longer serve you.
  2. You’ll heal emotional wounds so you can create what is most meaningful in your life.
  3. You’ll be better equipped to create flourishing relationships.
  4. You’ll connect with your Authentic Self so you can feel whole all the time.
  5. You’ll develop self-compassion so you accept yourself right where you are, flaws and all.
  6. Physical pain often lessens or disappears. Your body will feel safer to unwind and relax. You’ll heal faster.
  7. You’ll experience the sweetness of spiritual intimacy and unconditional love in a group of like-hearted companions.

What Makes This Retreat So Powerful?

This retreat is a safe place for you to dive deep into emotional healing so you can experience major transformation in a compressed time.

Private counseling sessions of 50 minutes don’t allow for this kind of deep healing. You have an entire weekend to heal layer after layer. Your Authentic Self will shine so much more brightly.

You will benefit from my four decades of professional counseling expertise, but the most powerful healer is the Holy Spirit.

This retreat is custom-tailored to the small group of 4-6 participants.

–>If you’d like to see if this retreat is a good fit for you, please complete the Contact Form for a complimentary 10-minute get-acquainted phone chat. I look forward to hearing from you.

Location: A home overlooking the Blue Ridge Mountains and Lake Chatuge. Bordered by the Chattahoochee National Forest. Young Harris, GA. Two hours from Atlanta, Chattanooga and Asheville.

*** If you are allergic to cats, tell me know before you apply so we can discuss if this retreat is appropriate for you.

Retreat Activities. You will complete a questionnaire two to three weeks before the retreat telling me exactly what you want to experience in this retreat. I will design processes to meet your specific needs. The agenda remains fluid throughout the retreat so that everyone’s goals are met.

 

There will be several types of experiential learning formats that facilitate deep transformation:

(1) I will coach you while the group learns vicariously. Group members learn more than they ever thought possible by observing someone else being coached. We have Q&A sessions to answer all your questions.

(2) Several people with similar issues will participate in a transformational process simultaneously.

Photo: Benita Esposito

(3) We will have at least one long Breathwork session. Breathwork is my most effective tool for generating deep spiritual-psychological-emotional-physical transformation.

Special Note: Read all these pages.  Breathwork is an intense transformational process. That’s why it is important that you read all the following posts before inquiring about the retreat.

Read this description of Breathwork.

Read these client stories on Breathwork.

Read this Breathwork Q&A discussion.

Click to read FAQs – What is it like to attend a Deep Emotional Healing Retreat?

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(4) Short lectures, written exercises, hand-outs, movement to music, mindfulness, deep breathing, relaxation, body-awareness activities, and didactic conversations.

Saturday and Sunday

Arrive at 9:00-9:15am *

Group 9:30am – 12:30pm

Break  12:30 – 2:30pm

Group  2:30 – 5:30pm

Saturday evening: group dinner

Please be flexible on the ending time Sunday to accommodate the needs of the group.

We will take one long break during the afternoon to walk at the lake, meditate, nap or deepen friendships. It’s your choice.

This semi-private retreat consists of 4-6 people. If we have 4 people, we will meet five hours on Sunday, instead of six hours.

If you are allergic to cats, tell me know before you register so we can discuss if this retreat is appropriate for you.

Note: Every retreat is different and is designed to meet the needs of the specific participants. Some people attend retreats for several years, deepening their growth and renewing friendships with other participants.

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Facilitator: Benita A. Esposito, MA, LPC

Benita is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Christian Healer with four decades experience. I respect your beliefs, including all spiritual paths that advocate love and respect for life.

Benita’s Bio

 

Want a preview? Watch my book video: The Gifted Highly Sensitive Introvert: Wisdom for Emotional Healing and Expressing Your Radiant Authentic Self. Click here.

Testimonials

Last night while soaking in the hot tub, I had a mental slideshow of past retreats and how transformative they’ve been for me.  For many years there’s been a deep ache inside of me because my father didn’t affirm me. This unresolved pain caused great difficulty with my romantic relationships. During the breathwork session at the last retreat, while I was in a dreamy state, I appeared as a radiant bride and my Dad finally gave me the adoration I have wanted all my life. Now six months later, I still feel the love that was planted in me during that retreat. What a priceless journey, worth more than gold!  – T.H, Entrepreneur

“By working with Benita Esposito over the last eight years in one-on-one and in group settings, I have deeply explored the outer reaches of consciousness, and the inner depths of my body-mind-soul-emotions. Via strong empathetic connection with me, Benita has intuitively guided me and coached me through issues so I can create healthy personal and business relationships. I benefit most from group retreats where there is a mixture of people’s energies. The extended time to work on things is crucial to digging deep and making major changes, while the beautiful Nature settings give me the soothing arena I need to process the experiences. Jump at the chance to be involved in a retreat as often as possible – that is my recommendation. If a retreat doesn’t suit you, choose another format. It is an honor and a privilege to have Benita as the co-creator of my true destiny and journey towards my Authentic Self.”  ~ L.S., Software Engineer

“As we closed the retreat, I felt, probably for the first time in my life, a deep grief that I would be leaving a group of people, and a deep desire to continue to be a part of your lives, and have each of you be a part of mine. This is one of the gifts you have all given me this past weekend. My path in life has been a solitary one, and I mostly liked it that way, but at the same time I felt lonely, isolated, and different. I never before realized how much I wanted to share myself with others, and to share their path and their experience.” E.W., Software Development Consultant

“My cheek muscles have been sore since I returned from the retreat. Could this be from smiling so much that it hurts? I have to say, when I left the retreat I had some good gut wrenching cries of loss and now…. wow, I do believe that joy is here. I am walking around singing, laughing, and just having fun with myself.  I want to spread this around to everyone.”- M.F., Technical Trainer

“I just wanted to thank you again for hosting such a wonderful and inspirational weekend retreat. I continued to ride the wave all the way home! As I reflected on one of the weekend’s more intense moments I found myself crying tears of despair, but they were instantaneously transformed into tears of joy as I instinctively felt comfort from the Divine. Thanks to your guidance, I now know how to access the healing, the answers, the wisdom and the love.” ~B.M., Computer Programmer

“I had never really even entertained the idea of doing a retreat. Scared me to death. This time I had some help coaxing me to go, but I knew I would do it anyway. Once my spirit decided it was the place to be, then it was so powerful that I had to surrender. So far it’s been one life changing experience after another. Right now I am flying. Can you tell? I mean high! I feel like running up this path barefooted if I have to. What an amazing life I have!” – V.S., Psychotherapist

 

Tuition includes Saturday night dinner.

$595.00 for two full days.

Early Bird Discount: Save $25.00 by Thursday, August 15, 2020.

Space is limited to 6 people. Register now to save your seat. Tickets will sell out quickly. Meals and lodging are on your own.

Contact me to receive payment instructions.

***Register early because you must fulfill the prerequisites below. Email me via the Contact Page and tell me you want to apply for this retreat.

Prerequisite:

New clients must have at least 3 private sessions. This can be in-person, on the phone or video-conference. Retreats are profound and intense. I need to make sure you are prepared. Please inquire about the fee for these private sessions. Contact me.

List of hotels and restaurants. Book your hotel early. Space fills up quickly because of the Fall leaf season in the mountains.

Photo by Benita Esposito

Refund Policy

All refund requests must be made via email. Complete the contact form.
• 30 or more days before the retreat, there will be a full refund minus a $50 processing fee.
• No refunds 0 – 29 days before the retreat, but you may apply your fee to private sessions or another retreat within 1 year, minus a $50 fee.

 

Facilitator’s Cancellation Policy

If an event must be cancelled due to unforeseen events (such as the weather or illness of the facilitator) the event will be rescheduled. Every attempt will be made to accommodate a new date that will suit your needs. If that is not possible, you may apply your tuition to another event of your choice within one year or apply your fee to private sessions.

“When you polish your facet of the diamond, the whole diamond glows more brilliantly.” ~ Benita A. Esposito, MA, Licensed Professional Counselor

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Valentine’s Couples Retreat 2020

This is a semi-private group retreat perfect for couples who want to strengthen their marriage. This retreat is also for engaged, co-habitating and dating couples who want to prevent unnecessary problems from arising in the first place.

One day: February 15, 2020. 9:30am – 5:30pm

Young Harris, Georgia in the Blue Ridge Mountains

As couples move beyond the “honeymoon” phase, they inevitably encounter conflicts. If not handled skillfully by both people, emotional wounds mount up, adding one more brick to an invisible wall. Don’t wait until the wall is too high to climb. Invest in the training you need to create the flourishing relationship you know is possible. Read more

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Your Authentic Life Personal Growth Retreat

One day, Saturday, September 16, 2017

Register by August 26, 2017.

 

What if you don’t take the risk to be your Authentic Self?

The thought of showing up as your Authentic Self can be exciting and scary. It requires you to take risks, and sometimes you don’t know the outcome before you jump off the proverbial cliff.

Will your marriage weather the transition? Will you still be employed? Will you be embraced by your family and friends … if you dare to be your Authentic Self and tell the truth about who you are?

But …

If you don’t show up as your Authentic Self, love is never fulfilling because your true self hides behind a mask. People can’t reach you and you can’t reach them. You change your behavior to manage people’s impressions, hoping they’ll love you. Or you withdraw to protect yourself, or you fight with your loved ones.
If you don’t show up as your Authentic Self, work is never fulfilling. Even if you get promoted because you’re conscientious, you’re unhappy. You’re not as creative as you could be. You’re not tapped into your sweet spot, shining from your God-given gifts. Without the passion of being fully alive, you feel drained, depressed or anxious.

So why take the risks to show up as Your Authentic Self?

Even when you’re afraid to fully show up, there’s a part of you who still yearns to unfold the truth of your being.

You want to be loved and respected for who you truly are. You want genuine emotional connection. You want to express your unique voice. You feel compelled to share your gifts with the world and leave your legacy.

The truth is: When you take a stand to show up as your Authentic Self, then you will find the people who truly support you. Others may fall away. You have to risk letting go. You must get good at grieving … saying good-bye … so you can say hello to your Authentic Self and the new people who will come into your life.

You must challenge the idea that being true to your self is selfish. Many of us grew up with the idea that it is bad to be self-centered … as if we couldn’t think about ourselves and be kind to others.

Some people will understand you and like you; some people won’t. When you define your true North, and summon the courage to be real, you glisten like a diamond, just as God intended you to shine in the world.

When you pay more attention to your divine blueprint than the opinions of others, only then will you experience true fulfillment.

In this Retreat …

  • You’ll clarify your core values and develop skills to craft the most meaningful life possible for you.
  • You’ll explore the limiting beliefs that hold you back.
  • You’ll learn why thinking positively doesn’t transform entrenched coping patterns.
  • You’ll examine childhood core decisions that have unconsciously thwarted your success.
  • You’ll learn skills to heal difficult emotional experiences that have shaped your life.
  • You’ll increase courage to show up as your Authentic Self, and share your most precious gifts.
  • As a result, you’ll enjoy greater health, happiness and work-life balance.

Who Should Attend?

Singles and Couples: Adults who want to express their Authentic Self, do deep emotional healing so they can successfully reach their life goals. Appropriate for Highly Sensitive People and others.

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Retreat View, Young Harris, GA

Why Attend a Retreat?

One-hour therapy sessions are great, but you can make much faster progress with an entire day spent with like-hearted people joined together to help you heal and tap into your full potential.

I will help you connect with your Authentic Self, your Spirit, and the Holy Spirit where healing, wisdom and creativity naturally flow.

This retreat will be tailored to the specific needs of those present.

This retreat unfolds organically to meet each participant’s needs. You will each define your goals, and I will draw on my 40 years of experience to choose specific skills to help you attain your goals. My task is to be present with you, and help you be present each moment, even in your vulnerable emotions. You’ll tell the deepest truth, and connect with your highest wisdom. We’ll mine the gold in the darkness.

When you develop the ability to feel your emotions while staying grounded in your body, you’ll experience an incredible freedom and peace, even in the midst of chaos. You will learn how to remain calm in the peaceful eye of the hurricane while the winds whip all around you. Instead of shrinking back from your fears, you will find your way through the storm, and flourish in the freedom of pure love. You’ll connect with your Authentic Self, just the way God made you.

Like to swim? Bring your suit.

Topics may include, but are not limited to the following:

  • Increase self-confidence, and self-esteem.
  • Create healthy relationships.
  • Improve communication and assertiveness skills.
  • Deepen emotional healing.
  • Eliminate emotional reactivity.
  • Enjoy sweeter spiritual intimacy.
  • Heal family of origin wounds.
  • Achieve work-life balance.
  • Improve self-care and overall health.

Date: One day. Saturday, September 16,  9:30a.m.-5:30 p.m. Please arrive 9:00-9:15a.m.

We’ll have a lunch break for 2 hours so you can go swimming, walk by the lake, meditate or visit with group members. Bring a picnic lunch or go out to eat.

money-visa-blue-morguefile-freeTuition: $240.00. Lunch on your own.

Register early to reserve your seat. Space is limited to 7 participants. Please register by August 26, 2017.

If you have had three or more private therapy sessions with me, you may go ahead and pay with PayPal. Ask me for instructions. Or mail a check to The Esposito Institute, PO Box 1074, Young Harris, GA 30582.

If you are a new client: To apply for participation in this event, complete the Contact form. Give me 3 good times to call you. You’ll receive a complimentary 10-minute phone interview to see how this retreat will benefit you. Prerequisite: 2 private therapy sessions, in-person or videoconference.

HiawasseeLocation: Young Harris, Georgia. Enjoy the beauty of the Blue Ridge Mountains.  Two hours from Atlanta, Asheville or Chattanooga.

The Old Paradigm

When we judge and suppress or repress our emotional experiences, we get stuck. We learn to wear a mask, protecting our soft under-belly from being hurt. We hide from ourselves and our loved ones. We can’t truly flourish. We may try hard, and we may be very successful in ways defined by the world. But our relationship with our Authentic Self, with our body, with God, and with others becomes compromised. This separation creates dis-ease and unrest on many levels.

The New Paradigm

Contrary to popular opinion, fear, anger, or anguish are not the problem. Emotions are not our enemies and we do not have to get rid of them or release them. This thinking  keeps us stuck in a vicious cycle: feeling good for a while and then feeling bad and ashamed, and then suffering once again.

We need to accept difficult emotions as part of our human experience and stay fully present in our bodies, receiving unconditional love. Then we heal. Health and vitality flow. Relationships flourish. Self-esteem rises.

Retreat Testimonials

Suggested reading: The Path of Least Resistance by Robert Fritz.

Pre-requisite: A minimum of two private sessions with Benita A. Esposito.

 BE July2016Credentials:  Benita A. Esposito, M.A. earned her master’s degree in clinical psychology in 1976. She is a licensed professional counselor, life coach and ordained minister with “The Association for the Integration of the Whole Person.” Benita provides individual and couples private sessions, groups, workshops and weekend retreats.  This retreat is a spiritual healing format, not a psychotherapy format.

—> If you would like a two-day retreat to do more intensive work, join us for the Deep Emotional Healing Retreat October 28-29, 2017.

“Truly, truly, I say to you, he who believes in Me, the works that I do, he will do also; and greater works than these he will do; because I go to the Father.”  Jesus, quoted in John 14:12

Copyright 2016.  All rights reserved. The Esposito Institute, Inc.

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Success Skills Retreat

One Saturday, December 31, 2016.

9:30AM-5:30PM

Early Bird: Save $39.00 by 12/12/2016

Have you begun to contemplate your goals for 2017? I have. Read more

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Your Authentic Life Annual Beach Retreat 2017

Kihel on Maui, Hawaii. July 13-23, 2017.

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Only two spots left for this retreat.

Women Only.

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Private Personal Development Retreat

If you’re like me, sometimes you feel pulled to go deep inside to explore the inner reaches of your psyche, but you resist doing it by yourself. You need structure and guidance from a qualified expert. Schedule a private personal development retreat just for yourself, tailored to your exact needs … the deep dive necessary to catapult you on your human potential journey. Choose one to three days.

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Retreat Testimonials

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“By working with Benita Esposito over the last eight years in one-on-one and in group settings, I have deeply explored the outer reaches of consciousness, and the inner depths of my body-mind-soul-emotions. Via strong empathetic connections, Benita has intuitively guided me through issues that others in the mainstream medical professions told me I would be living with for the rest of my life.  Benita coaches me to create healthy relationships in personal, business and in community. I benefit most from group retreats where there is a mixture of people’s energies. The extended time to work on things is crucial to digging deep and making major changes, while the beautiful Nature settings give me a soothing arena I need to process the experiences. Jump at the chance to be involved in a retreat as often as possible – that is my recommendation. If a retreat doesn’t suit you, choose another format. It is an honor and a privilege to have Benita as the co-creator of my true destiny and journey towards my Authentic Self.”  ~ L.S. Florida (August 2010)

“As we closed the retreat on Monday, I felt, probably for the first time in my life, a deep grief that I would be leaving a group of people, and a deep desire to continue to be a part of your lives, and have each of you be a part of mine. This is one of the gifts you have all given me this past weekend. My path in life has been a solitary one, and I mostly liked it that way, at the same time feeling lonely, isolated, and different. I never before realized how much I wanted to share myself with others, and to share their path and their experience.” ~ E.W., President, Software Development Consulting, Virginia

“My cheek muscles have been sore since I returned from the retreat. Could this be from smiling so much that it hurts? I have to say, when I left the retreat I had some good gut wrenching cries of loss–and now…. wow, I do believe that joy is here. I am walking around singing, laughing, and just having fun with myself. I feel I want to spread some of this around.”  ~ M.F., Technical Trainer, Colorado

“I just wanted to thank you again for hosting such a wonderful and inspirational weekend retreat. I continued to ride the wave all the way home! As I reflected on one of the weekend’s more intense moments I found myself crying tears of despair, but they were instantaneously transformed into tears of joy as I instinctively felt comfort from the Divine. Thanks to your guidance, I now know how to access the healing, the answers, the wisdom and the love.” ~ B.M., Computer Programmer, Tennessee

“I have never really even entertained the idea of doing a retreat. Scared me to death. This time I had some help coaxing me to go, but I knew I would do it anyway. Once my spirit decided it was the place to be, then it was so powerful that I really had to surrender. So far it’s been one life changing experience after another. Right now I am flying. Can you tell? I mean high! I feel like running up this path barefooted if I have to. What an amazing, amazing life I have!” ~ V.S., Psychotherapist, Atlanta

Click here to view the Retreat Schedule.

To apply for a retreat, send me a message in the comment box on the right side of this page.

Retreats are held in the north Georgia Blue Ridge Mountains or at the Florida Gulf coast.

Facilitator: Benita A. Esposito, MA, Licensed Professional Counselor, Georgia.

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Private Marriage Retreat / Couples Retreat

Whether you have a good relationship and want to make it better, or your marriage is in trouble, I will help you open your hearts to a greater love than you have ever known. Reap the rewards of 40 years of psychological research on what makes masters and disasters of marriage, along with my four decades of my clinical practice. I am a Licensed Professional Counselor.

WHO SHOULD ATTENDSerious Conversation Couple

  • Couples struggling in their relationship.
  • Engaged, newly married couples or dating couples who want to prevent negative patterns from arising, and learn proven skills to create a strong flourishing relationship.

As couples move beyond the “honeymoon” phase, they encounter conflicts. If not handled skillfully, emotional wounds mount up, adding one more brick in the wall. That hurts. But, there is hope and help. Even after an affair, marriages can be saved 73-85% of the time according to research. *

It breaks my heart to see couples suffer with the slowness of private counseling sessions. We can cover only so much in 55 minutes once a week. If you have severe conflicts, you touch on the pain, and session is over. That’s so frustrating. You fight again, or you hurt each other with icy silence. You don’t have to suffer this way. We will skyrocket your success by meeting for one to three days at a time.

happy-couple2I recently facilitated a 3-day private marriage retreat. They were thrilled with the breakthroughs we co-created that they had not been able to experience in one year of marriage counseling with another counselor. Don’t get me wrong. They have a highly skilled marriage counselor, one of the best. I collaborated with their therapist an hour each day of their retreat. She said that even the first day we accessed deeper material than in one year of marriage counseling. Their therapist was extremely grateful for my help, and I was honored to assist her and her clients.

Whether you’ve had couples counseling before, or this is your first time, a private couples retreat will greatly accelerate your progress.

I’ll design a retreat tailored to your needs. Couple on sofa

  • Enhance your emotional intimacy and sexual intimacy so you feel loved and understood.
  • Listen. Empathize. Lean toward your partner … instead of away … so you stop the loneliness, anger and pain.
  • Express your emotions, thoughts and needs constructively so your partner wants to connect with you.
  • Stop hurting each other.
  • Become each others best friend.
  • Create win-win solutions to meet each other’s core needs.
  • If you try to resolve conflicts at the surface level, conflicts will keep repeating like a revolving door. I will help you discover your deepest needs and emotions, and communicate from that level.
  • Spot and stop your negative coping patterns when you get triggered.
  • Manage resentment, hurt, anger, and fear effectively so you grow in intimacy instead of shrink back or lash out.couple-holding-hands-black
  • Heal emotional wounds that block intimacy.
  • Apologize and forgive. Reach true reconciliation so you trust each other again.
  • Be true to your Authentic Self. Stop losing yourself in your relationship.
  • Learn how to be assertive, not aggressive nor non-assertive.
  • Stay motivated to do what it takes even when the going gets tough.

If your relationship is not growing, it is dying.

If you want your car to function well for a long time, you take good care of it by giving it regular maintenance. Your marriage deserves this tender loving care also … on a regularly scheduled basis.

When I see couples in private weekly counseling sessions, they sometimes say they can use the skills during our meetings, but they have trouble applying them at home. I jokingly say, “Do I need to come live with you?” Well, this retreat is the next best thing!

Bride and Bridegroom at WeddingCORE VALUES

The secure bond that results from emotional intimacy is the root of all healthy loving relationships. By increasing your ability to love well and communicate in caring ways, everyone benefits: you, your partner, your children, your families, your community and ultimately the world.

PREREQUISITE: The Assessment Phase

The purpose of the Assessment Phase is to determine the strengths and weaknesses of your relationship, and to develop a treatment plan tailored to your exact needs.

In the unlikely event that I determine that a private couples retreat is not in your best interest, I will make appropriate referrals. The cost of the first three meetings is in addition to the retreat fee of $1200 per day.

Meeting 1: You meet as a couple in my office or via videoconference for 55 minutes ($195.00). For faster progress, schedule an 80-minute session ($295.00).

Then you’ll complete the online Gottman Assessment which will show the strengths and weaknesses of your relationship. You will complete this separately without discussing it with each other so you feel free to candidly answer the questions. The fee is $90.00 for the assessment.

Meetings 2 and 3: I meet with you each individually for 53-55 minutes. $160.00 for each meeting.

Meeting 4: We all meet together for 55 minutes. This meeting is $175.00. I will give you a summary of your relationship strengths and weaknesses, and we develop a treatment plan that includes goals and objectives. This meeting can kick-off  your Private Couples Retreat, or I may require it before scheduling a Retreat, depending on what I think is best.

THEORY AND TECHNIQUES

I draw on 4 decades of psychological research, theory and practice as presented in the books below. If you are a Christian, I will include principles of Christian counseling to tailor a retreat that best meets your needs. You do not need to be Christian to attend this retreat.

Click on the link below to watch my 24-minute TV interview based on Dr. John Gottman’s research of the 4 behaviors that predict divorce with 93% accuracy: Four Horsemen: Don’t let them ruin your marriage.

Suggested books (not required before the retreat).

  • Dr. Sue Johnson: “Hold Me Tight” and “Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships.” I use Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy.
  • Dr. John Gottman: “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work”. Purchase the revised edition 2015.

Lake Chatuge, Hayesville, NCRETREAT VENUE

Blue Ridge Mountains, Young Harris, Georgia.

FUN: In addition to receiving expert guidance to repair your marriage from a licensed professional counseling, you might want to combine your private couples retreat with a vacation. Pack a picnic. Hike through a forest to a waterfall. Sit by the fire and watch the stars. Rent a canoe, kayak, boat or jet ski. Swim in our clean lake. Enjoy a massage. Dance the night away. Hike the Appalachian Trail.

RESTAURANTS and LODGING Several hotels and restaurants overlook Lake Chatuge and the Blue Ridge Mountains or a golf course.

TUITION: $1,200 per day. 9:30am-5:30pm, includes 6 hours of counseling per day with a two-hour break. Schedule one to three days. Meals are on your own.

Benita A. EspositoFACILITATOR: Benita A. Esposito is a Licensed Professional Counselor with a master’s degree in Clinical Psychology and 4 decades professional experience.  Specialties include marriage and couples counseling, depression, anxiety, stress management, healing trauma, and healing the emotional roots of dis-ease.

To Apply for this Private Marriage Retreat / Couples Retreat:

Please complete the Contact page. You will receive a complementary 15-minute interview. Include your name, email address, phone number and time zone with three best times to reach you. Or call me at 770.998.6642 Monday-Friday, 9am-5pm EST. Leave a message if you don’t reach me. I might be in session or on the other line.

I look forward to helping you create a truly flourishing relationship. It is possible!

Blessings,
Benita A. Esposito, MA, LPC

P.S. Follow-up weekly or bi-weekly sessions (in-person, videoconference or phone), or additional one-day retreats will help you deepen your learning until you can maintain a secure healthy connection.

 

T h e   W a l l  (One of my favorite poems)

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Tallulah Gorge, GA

Their wedding picture mocked them from the table,
These two whose minds no longer touched each other.
They lived with such a heavy barricade between them that
Neither battering ram of words nor
Artillery of touch could break it down.

Somewhere, between the oldest child’s first tooth
And the youngest daughter’s graduation, they lost each other.
Throughout the years, each slowly unraveled that
Tangled ball of string called Self.
And as they tugged at stubborn knots,
Each hid his searching from the other.

Sometimes she cried at night
And begged the whispering darkness
To tell her who she was.
He lay beside her,
Snoring like a hibernating bear,
Unaware of her winter.

Once, after they had made love,
He wanted to tell her how afraid he was of dying.
But, fearing to show his naked soul,
He spoke instead about the beauty of her breasts.

She took a course in modern art,
Trying to find herself in colors
Splashed upon a canvas,
And complained to other women
About men who are insensitive.

He climbed into a tomb called the office,
Wrapped his mind in a shroud of paper figures
And buried himself in customers.

Slowly, the wall between them rose,
Cemented by the mortar of indifference.
One day, reaching out to touch each other,
They found a barrier they could not penetrate;
And recoiling from the coldness of the stones,
Each retreated from the struggle on the other side.

For when love dies,
It is not in a moment of angry battle,
Nor when fiery bodies lose their heat.
It lies, panting, exhausted …
Expiring at the bottom of the wall
It could not scale.

Author Unknown

* Research from Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Sue Johnson indicate a success rate of 73-85% with these particular therapies.  This is higher than any other method of couple/marriage counseling. That’s why I use them.

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Deep Emotional Healing Retreat October 2015

Explore, Excavate, Express your Authentic Self. 

Retreat Dates: October 30-November 1, 2015.

Early Bird Date: 9/19/15. Save $40.00.  

fall-leavesUnresolved emotional wounds decrease your ability to create fulfilling relationships, a meaningful career, and increase anxiety. Eventually, these wounds will also take a toll on your physical health.

What Makes My Retreats so Powerful?

This retreat is a safe place for you to dive deep into emotional healing so you can experience major transformation in a compressed time. Private counseling sessions of 55 minutes just don’t allow for this kind of deep healing.  Here, you have an entire weekend to explore emotional material, peel away layer after layer, allowing your Authentic Self to shine brightly. You will benefit from my 4 decades of professional counseling expertise, but the most powerful healing force is the Holy Spirit. You can achieve 6-12 months worth of progress in one weekend. Really!

Resolve family of origin wounds and the limiting patterns that were set up because of them. This is sometimes called “shadow work.” When the clouds vanish, the sun shines through.

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Married: Are you frustrated with conflicts that just won’t stop? Do you get emotionally triggered, even when you don’t want that to happen?

Singles: Do you want to prepare yourself for a healthy fulfilling relationship? You know that when you upgrade your own consciousness, you will attract a romantic partner who functions on a higher level.

Or, do you have a  strained relationship with a child or parent?  Learn how to remain true to your Authentic Self and set healthy boundaries for self-care while building healthy relationships. Communicate in ways that help everyone feel safe: safe to open, explore, and grow.

SELF-AWARENESS: Do limiting thoughts and “monkey-mind chatter” create worry? Do you suspect that unresolved emotional wounds from your family of origin may be sabotaging your relationships? Examples are: physical or sexual abuse, emotional or verbal abuse, physical abuse, emotional neglect or emotional detachment. Do you suspect that unhealed wounds may be contributing to ill health, obesity, damaged relationships or limits to your career?  Do you procrastinate or avoid conflicts?  I will help you dig deep to examine your patterns, become more self-aware, and heal emotional wounds so you can be set free. Before you can create flourishing relationships, you must know your Authentic Self. Paradoxically, this means that you must accept yourself right were you are, and then you are set free to change.

CAREER: Do you find yourself working too much? You don’t have enough time for your family or “me” time? Do you want to create a meaningful career that reflects your true Authentic Self? Are you frustrated because you do not receive appropriate compensation?  Do you sense the creative reservoir within, but you don’t fully express your gifts in the world? I’ll help you excavate the wisdom that already lies within you so you can shine as your Authentic Self in your career.

HEALTH: Do you experience physical illness or pain? Do you sense there might be an emotional, spiritual or lifestyle component that needs to be resolved? When you heal the psycho-spiritual root, many times pain lessens or disappears. You body feels safe to relax. Your body heals faster. I’ll help you uncover the core cause of the dis-ease and experience God’s healing grace.

EYE Micah Morrow Morguefiel.com freeSPIRITUALITY: Do you feel called to your next step of spiritual growth? Is divine discontentment knocking at your door? Experience the sweetness of spiritual intimacy nestled in unconditional love. Jesus’ greatest commandment is to love God, and to love each other as ourselves. That means that you must fully love your self. Allow this love to grow in you, as you.

The Promise of the Retreat

Lift your relationships, career, health and spirituality to a whole new level.

Experience rigorous yet gentle leadership tailored to your unique learning style. Receive insights so compelling that you naturally flow into effective action instead of getting bogged down in self-defeating patterns. Allow God’s love to flood you, heal you and release wave after wave of creativity. Bask in the sweetness of spiritual intimacy, drawing ever closer to God, our source of rich and deep healing. Enjoy accelerated healing in the beauty of our mountain lake.

Lake Chatuge, Hayesville, NC

Lake Chatuge, Hayesville, NC

Location: My home overlooking the Blue Ridge Mountains and Lake Chatuge, bordered by the Chattahoochee National Forest. Young Harris, GA. Two hours from Atlanta, Chattanooga and Asheville.

Retreat Activities. You will complete a questionnaire three weeks before the retreat telling me exactly what you want to create in your life. I will design processes to meet your specific needs. The agenda remains fluid throughout the retreat so that we optimize results for everyone.

There will be several types of experiential learning formats to facilitate your deep transformation:  (1) I will coach you while the group learns vicariously. Group members learn more than they ever thought possible by observing someone else being coached. We have plenty of  Q&A sessions to answer all your questions.

(2) Several people who have similar issues will participate in a process simultaneously.

(3) We will have at least one long Breathwork session which will create deep spiritual-psychological-emotional-physical transformation. (Click here to read two client stories about breathwork.)

(4) Short lectures, written exercises, hand-outs, movement to music, mindfulness, deep breathing, relaxation, body-awareness activities, and didactic conversations.

Read this before applying for this retreat.

FAQs – Breathwork

FAQs – What is it like to attend a Retreat?

TallulahGorgeFalls BEspositoSchedule: October 30 – November 1, 2015

Friday 7:00pm-9:00pm. Introductions. 

Saturday and Sunday

Group 9am – 12:00pm

Break  12 – 2:00pm

Group  2:00 – 5 or 6:00pm

Saturday evening: group dinner.

Please be flexible on the ending time to accommodate the needs of the group.

We will take one long break during the afternoon to exercise at the Lake, meditate, nap or deepen friendships. It’s your choice.

Prerequisite:  New clients must have at least 3 private sessions. This can be on the phone or video-conference. Retreats are intense, so I need to make sure you are prepared.

Tuition $495.00 (Meals and lodging are on your own.)Rhodie, Fuscia 27KB

Early Bird $450. Save $40 when you pay in full by midnight 9/19/14. A deposit of $50 holds your place. Pay with PayPal.

Enrollment is by invitation only.  For an interview, schedule a phone appointment with Benita Esposito. Call 770.998.6642

Prerequisite: A minimum of 3 private sessions.

Note: Every retreat is different and is designed to meet the needs of the specific participants. Some people like to attend several retreats a year for several years, deepening their growth, and renewing friendships with other participants.

Facilitator: Benita A. Esposito

Benita is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Christian Healer with four decades experience. I respect your beliefs, including all spiritual paths that advocate love and respect for life.BE_Hat_side 6Jul13

Testimonials

Last night while soaking in the hot tub, I had a mental slideshow of past retreats and how transformative they’ve been for me.  For many years there’s been a deep ache inside of me because my father didn’t affirm me. This unresolved pain caused great difficulty with my romantic relationships. During the breathwork session at the last retreat, while I was in a dreamy state, I appeared as a radiant bride and my Dad finally gave me the adoration I have wanted all my life. Now six months later, I still feel the love that was planted in me during that retreat. What a priceless journey, worth more than gold!  – T.H, Entrepreneur

“By working with Benita Esposito over the last eight years in one-on-one and in group settings, I have deeply explored the outer reaches of consciousness, and the inner depths of my body-mind-soul-emotions. Via strong empathetic connection with me, Benita has intuitively guided me and coached me through issues so I can create healthy personal and business relationships. I benefit most from group retreats where there is a mixture of people’s energies. The extended time to work on things is crucial to digging deep and making major changes, while the beautiful Nature settings give me the soothing arena I need to process the experiences. Jump at the chance to be involved in a retreat as often as possible – that is my recommendation. If a retreat doesn’t suit you, choose another format. It is an honor and a privilege to have Benita as the co-creator of my true destiny and journey towards my Authentic Self.”  ~ L.S., Software Engineer

Black yg woman in yellow“As we closed the retreat on Monday, I felt, probably for the first time in my life, a deep grief that I would be leaving a group of people, and a deep desire to continue to be a part of your lives, and have each of you be a part of mine. This is one of the gifts you have all given me this past weekend. My path in life has been a solitary one, and I mostly liked it that way, but at the same time I felt lonely, isolated, and different. I never before realized how much I wanted to share myself with others, and to share their path and their experience.” E.W., Software Development Consultant

“My cheek muscles have been sore since I returned from the retreat. Could this be from smiling so much that it hurts? I have to say, when I left the retreat I had some good gut wrenching cries of loss and now…. wow, I do believe that joy is here. I am walking around singing, laughing, and just having fun with myself.  I want to spread this around to everyone.”- M.F., Technical Trainer

“I just wanted to thank you again for hosting such a wonderful and inspirational weekend retreat. I continued to ride the wave all the way home! As I reflected on one of the weekend’s more intense moments I found myself crying tears of despair, but they were instantaneously transformed into tears of joy as I instinctively felt comfort from the Divine. Thanks to your guidance, I now know how to access the healing, the answers, the wisdom and the love.” ~B.M., Computer Programmer

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“I had never really even entertained the idea of doing a retreat. Scared me to death. This time I had some help coaxing me to go, but I knew I would do it anyway. Once my spirit decided it was the place to be, then it was so powerful that I had to surrender. So far it’s been one life changing experience after another. Right now I am flying. Can you tell? I mean high! I feel like running up this path barefooted if I have to. What an amazing life I have!” – V.S., Psychotherapist

Click here to read 2 retreat stories.

View the list of hotels and restaurants. Book your hotel early. Space fills up quickly if there is a convention in town.

Tuition: $495.00Success Starts Here FlashBuddy Morguefile Free

Early Bird $455.00. Save $40 when you pay in full by September 19.

Want to make 2 payments? That’s OK. Call me.

To Register, call or email Benita A. Esposito, LPC. Cell: 770.998.6642

Email: Benita@EspositoInstitute.com

Reserve your seat now to ensure your seat. This small intimate retreat consists of 5-7 people. (I will hold the retreat with only 4 people, but we will only meet Saturday and Sunday, 9am-5pm.)

Pay with your bank account, credit or debit card on PayPal.com.  Or mail a check to: The Esposito Institute, P.O. Box 1074, Young Harris, GA 30582. Cash is fine, too.

Want to save money on lodging? There are two private bedrooms available in the apartment in my home. Please contact me for reservations @ $39 per night per person. Call 770.998.6642. After the bedrooms are filled, you may sleep on a deluxe air mattress in the living room (overlooking the lake and mountains) for $25/night.

Refund Policy • 26 or more days before the retreat, there will be a full refund minus a $50 processing fee. • 15-25 days before the retreat, there will be a 50% refund, minus a $50 processing fee. • No refunds 0 – 14 days before the retreat.

“When you polish your facet of the diamond, the whole diamond glows more brilliantly.” ~ Benita A. Esposito, MA, Licensed Professional Counselor

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Lodging & Restaurants, Hiawassee & Young Harris, GA. Hayesville, NC

Book early because hotels fill up quickly if there is an event in town.

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Brasstown Valley Resort.  Beautiful, many amenities and most expensive. Includes hotel lodge rooms and log cabins, spa, golf course, indoor-outdoor saltwater pool, hiking trails. The restaurant and grill are open for breakfast, lunch and dinner. 6321 U.S. 76, Young Harris, GA 30582.(800)201-3205. 5 minutes from my home. www.brasstownvalley.com

The Ridges Resort. At the foot of my mountain, on the lake next to the marina. Many lake-view rooms. 3499 U.S. 76  Hiawassee, GA 30546.  (706) 896-2262.  www.theridgesresort.com

Private Rental Home in my neighborhood. Search homeaway.com for Property ID: p151747.  “Cozy Cabin in the North Georgia Mountains”  One bedroom/one bath. Average $115/night. One bedroom, one bath.

Private Rental Home: You might want to share this 3 bedroom/3 bath home with other guests. Search homeaway.com for Property ID: 314884vb. “Palm Peach” Hiawassee, GA.

Private Rental Home AirB&B. 2968 Hooper Branch Road, Hiawassee, GA (Small cabin up the mountain from Sunnyside Drive on a creek. $100/night aprox. Pet friendly.)

Hinton Center, Hayesville, NC.  Gorgeous mountain lake views. A Methodist Retreat center, lowest priced lodging, includes small hermitages, cottages and dormitories. 15 minutes from my home. A great deal. Has a cafeteria for a quick breakfast. 2330 Hinton Center Rd., Hayesville, NC 28904. (828) 389-8336. www.hintoncenter.org

RESTAURANTS  ~ All are within 5 minutes of Young Harris Retreat Venue

Breakfast and Lunch and Dinner sometimes
• Mary’s Southern Grill at the corner of hwy. 76 and GA17/NC69. Down-home southern country cookin’ at the foot of my mountain.

Lunch and Dinner  – Young Harris and Hiawassee, GA
Hawg Wild BBQ And Catfish House. Lunch and dinner. Gorgeous views of the lake. Outdoor dining.

El Cancun Mexican Restaurant. Great views of the lake and casual outdoor dining.

Brothers Restaurant, Young Harris. Steak and seafood, Amerian cuisine.

Young Harris College buffet and Chic Fil A. (See Cupid Falls just off the campus.)

Asiano’s (Chinese and Japanese)

Rib Country, Hayesville, NC and Hiawassee

Copper Door, Hayesville. elegant, expensive, live music on weekend.

Café Portofino, Hiawassee. Live music on weekends.

Enrico’s Italian Restaurant, Young Harris

Towns County Chamber of Commerce List
Hotels:  http://www.mountaintopga.com/hotels_motels_and_resorts.asp
B&B’s:   http://www.mountaintopga.com/bed_and_breakfasts.asp

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