Why is pre-marital counseling so important? For marriages that end, half of them occur during the first seven years. Second marriages have an even higher divorce rate than first-time marriages. Third-time marriages have an even higher divorce rate than second-time marriages. You get the picture. The average couples waits six years before seeking marriage counseling. That’s way too long to suffer and let bad habits brew. Bottom line is: when you give yourselves the gift of pre-marital counseling, you will build a strong foundation so you can avoid a lot of potential misery.
We will have an initial joint session, then two individual sessions, and then joint sessions for the remainder of our work together. I will ask for you to take the online Gottman Assessment, which gives a thorough look at your relationship strengths and challenges. I’ll be using a combination of two theories and techniques: Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Sue Johnson’s Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy. Both are heavily researched; that’s why I use them. The number of sessions depends on the your current skill level as a couple and issues.
Here’s a metaphor: If you want to dance well together, each of your needs to learn your individual steps, and you also need to know how to move gracefully together across the dance floor. You also need to know how to help your partner regain balance when he or she stumbles. You stay on the dance floor when the learning gets tough instead of walking away.
Here’s the thing to keep in mind. No matter what the topic that may be challenging for you … division of chores, parenting, in-laws, work-life balance … I will teach you skills to maintain a strong emotional bond, even during conflicts. Learning how to sustain this emotional bond is the most important thing you must learn as a couple. Then you can apply the skills to whatever topic you are discussing. If you as a couple do not know how to sustain this emotional bond, your marriage will deteriorate.
Read this article: 10 Tips to Sustain Emotional Intimacy During Conflicts
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I look forward to talking with you soon. To request a complementary 10-minute phone interview, Click here to email me.
Benita A. Esposito, MA, Licensed Professional Counselor
P.S. I use two proven research-based Couple Therapy programs: Emotionally Focused Therapy and Gottman Couple Therapy. Research proves these approaches help couples build (or rebuild) the bonds of love and connection. 70-75% of couples move from distress to recovery and approximately 90% show significant improvements.
Marriage Counseling, Couples Counseling and Individual Psychotherapy available in Atlanta (Sandy Springs) and Blairsville, Georgia