Kitchen Chat and more…
Kitchen Chat and more…
I am thankful every time you slow down enough to listen to your innermost needs.
I am thankful every time you soften your Inner Critic’s quips with self-compassion.
I am thankful every time you pursue your dreams instead of running from your fears.
I am thankful every time you laugh and play like an innocent child.
I am thankful every time you explore your psyche to deeply understand yourself.
I am thankful every time you meditate to soothe your frazzled nervous system.
I am thankful every time you exercise, eat right and get enough sleep.
I am thankful every time you bring forth possibilities that others never thought of.
I am thankful every time you look beyond reactivity to soothe the pain inside.
I am thankful every time you courageously confront conflict with tenderness.
I am thankful every time you open your heart and receive Spirit’s wisdom and mercy.
I am thankful every time you remember that you don’t have to be perfect to be lovable.
I am thankful every time you forgive yourself and others for shortcomings.
I am thankful every time you see yourself as a worthwhile person … unconditionally loved and always growing toward greater wisdom, insight, compassion and creativity.
I am thankful for you. Why?
We each make a difference in the quality of life on this planet, within our families, and within our workplaces. It all begins with the relationship we have with our Selves and our Spiritual Connection.
“We but mirror the world. All the tendencies present in the outer world are to be found in the world of our body. If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change. As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him. This is the divine mystery supreme. A wonderful thing it is and the source of our happiness. We need not wait to see what others do.” ~ Mahatma Gandhi
When you take good care of yourself … when you engage in your personal and spiritual growth … you become an inspiration for everyone around you. That’s how cultural change takes place. One person at a time. One couple at a time. One family at a time. One company at a time.
It’s true that not everyone will understand you or appreciate you. We all have our own free will. You can only be responsible for yourself.
Carve out the quality of life that you know is good for you. Take a stand for your personal freedom as the pilgrims did. Take risks to foster your vision. Stop analyzing other people so much. Keep your eye on the prize. Make choices congruent with love and wisdom.
Love always triumphs in the end.
May you be filled to overflowing this day …. with delicious food and even more important … with the Love that enables you to feel whole and complete … right where you are … here and now … no matter what your circumstances.
Please pass it on.
“Be the change you wish to see.” ~ Ghandi
Benita Esposito, MA, LPC, LCMHC
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Have you ever wondered what happens in the first counseling session? I thought you might, so I wrote this article about it.
The first session is an assessment, not counseling per se. I need to get to know you before jumping into the counseling phase. I ask a lot of questions and listen closely to your answers. I want to understand you as a unique individual. You may also ask me questions to determine if we are a good fit.
1. I’ll review your intake questionnaire with you and get a crystal clear picture of your goals.
2. We’ll discuss where you are now and what past factors are affecting your current life. This will take more than one session, but I want to get an overview in the first session. We won’t have time to go into lots of details.
3. We look at the gap between where you are now and where you want to be.
4. We begin to design a plan for moving from “here” to “there.” Here’s an analogy: If you were going to build a house, you would begin with a blueprint. We start designing the blueprint in the first session. It often takes more than one session to create the blueprint. If the plan is not prepared adequately, the success of the project will be inefficient and more likely to fail. I ask for your patience during this phase. This is the first step to help you achieve your goals.
5. We’ll talk about what has worked and what has not worked in the past so I can help you more efficiently.
6. You’ll tell me how you cope with stressors so I can help you respond more effectively.
7. I’ll begin to learn about your personality and help you understand yourself better.
8. We’ll start to build rapport, the most essential element in the counseling relationship.
9. At the end of the first meeting, we will both determine if we feel like we are a good match. If not, I’ll do my best to give you referrals.
10. If we both choose to proceed, I’ll gather more information in the second session. If we are finished reviewing your intake questionnaire, we’ll develop a treatment plan. We are still in the planning stage so please be patient. After the “blueprint” is completed, we’ll jump into the counseling phase.
If you have any questions or concerns, be sure to address them. I like to have open communication. No question is too small. I want to serve you in the best way possible so I need to know what you are thinking, feeling and wanting.
These situations are not a good fit for me. I’ll do my best to give you referrals.
• Alcohol and/or drug abuse
• Current domestic violence
• Suicidal or homicidal ideation or attempts
• Severe mental illness
• Borderline personality disorder
• Untreated bipolar disorder
*** I do not work with clients who are involved with legal cases where I may be asked to submit my records or to testify in court. I do not write reports to justify absence from work, nor do I write disability reports, workman’s compensation reports or legal reports of any kind. I do not work with child custody cases.
Click here to read about my ideal clients for individual counseling.
Click here to read about couples counseling.
I hope this article has answered most of your questions about what to expect in the first session. I’m here to help you create the most meaningful and fulfilling life possible.
If you’d like a complimentary 10-minute phone call to see if we are a good fit, please click here to complete the Contact Form.
Benita A. Esposito, MA is a Licensed Professional Counselor with a private practice in Blairsville and Atlanta, Georgia. She is also a Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor in North Carolina, and she offers life coaching and spiritual counseling around the globe. She counsels adults who experience anxiety, stress, trauma, PTSD and grief. Specializations include highly sensitive people and couples counseling.
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The Esposito Institute
PO Box 1074
Young Harris, GA 30582